Do you know, getting noticed by your crush will be much easier if only you understand the way their mind works?
For instance, it is generally assumed that boys or men are from Mars. They tend to like things at first sight. They are very visual and a good sight will definitely get us infatuated in no time. We all know that girls blessed with phenomenal genes will get a guy’s attention. Whether or not they want that attention is another thing, but aesthetic appeal draws everybody’s eyes. In this scenario, all you need to do is play to his senses and you’ll have him craving for your attention in no time.
You seem smitten and enamored, and that’s okay. Now you need to know, once and for all, if he/she wants to date you or not. So, you have to ask them out. By putting it out there that you’re romantically interested in him/her, you will get one of two answers;
YES! He/she is into you and you can go out and decide whether there’s a future for you as a couple OR NO – he/she doesn’t want to date you; he/she is just a charmer who wants to be your friend.
Either way, is it not better to know than to wonder, isn’t that right?
Most people will say they have to wait for opportunities to present itself before making a move, so why don’t you create such opportunities for them? How, you may want to know? You can do so by asking open and purposefully ambiguous questions to see how he responds. Talk to them, text them; even call them if you need to. Remember you don’t have to come right out and say;
“Hey there, I have such a crush on you that I thought I’d try to contact you. Let’s make this happen!”
You may walk up to them and blurt out,”I need to make a phone call and I have lost my mobile or I run out of call unit, can I please borrow yours?
This may activate the ‘Damsel in Distress’ reaction in him/her. If they do not have their mobile on them, do not give up! This is an opportunity to help you in any way that he/she can. By now you will have scrutinized him/her at close quarters and perhaps you will have come to certain conclusions about him.
In my experience, people are attracted most to people who are truly confident, interesting and productive. Ladies, simply dressing nice and winking at a man won’t go very far. It would be easier if women would be more direct and actually tell a guy that she likes him yes it would also be very flattering to man if a woman showed that kind of interest. Often, when women are the ones chasing, men normally get taken advantage of, because they see it as an opportunity to get what they want. If he sees that you are willing to do anything to get his attention he is going test the waters and try to see just how far you are willing to go.
Men like confidence in women, but don’t get cocky or overconfident. Don’t taunts or challenge him, yes there are some low esteem men where women can do that, but majority of men don’t take it very well.
While most men prefer the direct approach, I don’t think it is a bad thing to make him “think” his way through this social (albeit just the two of you) situation which falls outside of the norm for him. Now, I’m not promoting “games” or anything, but if the guy can’t work his way through the subtleties of a conversation with a potential companion using tools like suave, guile, and finesse, perhaps that’s not a companion worth having in this manner.
You will agree with me that the first 1-2 years in a relationship with a girl there’s nothing that will hold the relationship together but sex and attitude.
If you are already on good terms with the individual then continue to be a bright light among his acquaintances. Smile, be friendly, be happy to see him. If you have things in common suggest getting together to enjoy those activities. Ask him out on a casual date, like coffee or a movie you have a mutual interest in.
HOW DO YOU GRAB HIS/HER ATTENTION
Try to be different, when I say be different I mean; you know yourself, are comfortable with that and you have ideals and principles and live up to them. Remember the goal is to stand out a little without crossing over into low functioning, weird, disturbing and creepy.
Self-respect begins internally with you. To respect ones’ self means to recognize your own dignity.it means realizing what you will and won’t accept, and having the courage to enforce this with boundaries. To feel deserving of love and also value your priorities, and live your own life instead of others. You cherish your life, your choices, your principles and you understand that you deserve to be happy.
To get people’s attention you have to have something which is very rare or something which not many people have! It could be your style, your way of talking or walking or the way you handle things at work or it can simply be your personality. Make sure you look fantastic every time you know you will see. And if by chance you get caught unaware, do not panic.
Make your standards known:
Make time for them but do not always be at their beck and call. Let them know you also have so much stuff going on for yourself. Let him/her know you have other things to do besides him/her.
Be friendly: Meet and get friendly with his/her friends. A friend once told me; (Be friendly and polite with your boyfriends friends because they are the ones who will have your back when your boyfriends starts misbehaving).
Do not make yourself too difficult to understand as well as not make he/she easily detect your every move. Be a little mystery is not a bad idea, don’t you think so?
This does not mean that you need to be weak or to nag around. Show him non-verbally that you need his protection in some way or another.
Be the best version of you: Work on your personal skills. Read books and raise your standards.
Be fun and alive when he is around:
Guys cannot resist a fun, flirty girl with a sweet laugh. Spend time with your friends, be seen in the right places, at the right time and indulge in fun activities. Guys love a girl’s laughter. It always gets their attention. Have fun with your own friends, and he’ll definitely spend all the time looking at you.
Show off your kind side:
Guys are drawn to a girl’s kindness. They may not know it themselves but evolution has crafted men to fall for kind traits in women. Do not act bitchy or aloof just to show him that you are the coolest girl in around. Instead, be warm and pleasant when you speak with anyone who walks up to you. You’ll be liked by everyone, and definitely by the guy whose attention you want too!
Guys are suckers for girly fragrances. Pick up a few fragrances that smell good on your skin and make sure he gets a good whiff of it when you closely walk past him. He will have no choice but to float in your fragrance and hope to smell more of you.Finally;
Stare at him for a long time to get his attention:
Do not worry if he thinks your weird…..lol. Do this to make him think you like him do it multiple times. Then stop and just ignore him don not even make eye contact or talk to him and this will make him miss you and it will make him chase you too.
You may as well ask yourself this question; why am I attracted to this individual? If he/she is the popular new guy/girl, he/she is probably basking in all the attention, which is nice, so let them be. Do not push too hard, and it may be necessary to let the dust settle.
Remember, he/she will not always be the popular new boy/girl around. Yes! You like the person and you may be lucky if he/she likes you back now or maybe in future. Why not find out? While trying to grab that individual attention remembers; If you’re not compatible, then it doesn’t matter how much you love each other, the relationship is doomed.
So, go out there and do your thing! Be the amazing person that you are, explore what you really want out of life, have your own interests, do things (do not just talk about them), learn things (whatever you can! Gain new skills, learn an instrument, whatever)… never stop focusing on being the best version of yourself that is possible. Do it for yourself and you will attract lots of people to you.
Written by: JULIANA JONATHAN
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