Do you know how difficult it is making a lady who has no interest in relationship like you?
They are the most difficult people to convince, reasons are; they’ve given love a shot and it was a disaster, the taste of their dreamed happily ever after was sour. Although, one reason why most ladies would tell you they are not ready for any relationship is because they usually don’t like the guy they say that to. There are few who are honest when they say they aren’t interested in a relationship due to temporary circumstances or painful past experiences. There are ways to approach girls like these and this article will give you an insight on the best way to approach such ladies.
The first thing to consider is;
WHY DO YOU WANT HER?
It’s funny how men have no remarkable answers when they are asked this question. You may say she is intelligent, there are a million and one lady out there who is more intelligent than her. Now talk about her beauty and physic, and you will also agree with me there are ladies who’s got all this qualities. Then why do you want her?
Most often than not,men lose themselves trying to win the woman they so much want. That is totally wrong, it shouldn’t be so. Here’s a secret, women appreciate men who are able to show them ‘I want you but I don’t need you’ if you could successfully communicate this balance diet of information to her, you will appear a lot more attractive in her eyes. Remain a bit of a mystery. This way she won’t lose interest too fast….. if ever she is to.
Ladies are crazy about guys who keep surprising them positively, don’t be too open like a book. Make us imagine things. After a dinner date or a movie night, make us imagine who you really are…. how the night is going to play out. It becomes boring when we can tell your every move.
SHOW HER WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER IN TERMS OF FRIENDSHIP.
Most often, we think that if we can just find that right person, we’ll be happy and fulfilled. Which is totally not true, to find that person you need to first of all, develop that closeness, create room for friendship. You have to show her you have a genuine interest in what’s going on in her life. Listen to her attentively without judging her or trying to change the subject. The truth is this, whether you’re looking to make new, quality friendships or the kinds that leads to romance, if ever,she told you that she is not interested in a relationship, it must be because of the first impression you gave her. For instance
Most guys when they meet a lady they like and admire, the first question that comes to their mind is, will you be my girlfriend? For some people it worked out fine but for other it does not. Fellas, for future reference, ask girls out on “DATES” first, don’t ask them if they want to be your girlfriend, because at times it scares them off, most especially if they’ve had bad experiences in relationships. often than not when you approach a lady you like and the next thing you hear is, sorry “I am not interested”, the reason why you often get such response is this, your line sucks. Let her see what a great guy you will make, don’t be too serious.
Finally, learn to always take her individual personality into account when interpreting what she says.
First and foremost;
IS SHE OPEN TO EXPERIENCE?
Being open to experience is related to the psychological trait of absorption, and like absorption has a modest relationship to individual differences in hypnotic susceptibility, Openness involves creativity, intelligence and knowledge. People who are highly open to experience tend to be liberal and tolerant of diversity. As a result, they are generally more open to different cultures and lifestyles. So you have to observe her to know if she is.
HOW CONSCIENTIOUS IS SHE?
She may be the type that is never organized, that is; she lack the ability to be organized and dependable, show self-discipline , act dutifully , aim for achievement, and prefer planned rather than spontaneous behavior may be what she displays but I’d rather you get to know her more before judging her person.
How prone is she to psychological stress such as; anger, anxiety, depression, vulnerability etc. how does she handle challenges? these are the things you need to look out for. Neuroticism is a personality trait, coupled with the fact that circumstances might have change the way she see things.
IS SHE EXTROVERSION?
Does she enjoy being around people more than being alone? How sociable is she? Does she have the tendency to seek stimulation in the company of others? Or she probably might be the opposite of all I just mentioned. All these are things you need to know about her, and while doing that, do not perceive her to be attention-seeking and domineering because she has high extroversion or because she has a reserved and reflective personality which can be perceived as aloof or self-absorbed because has low Extroversion, it’s just her nature.
This is a measure of one’s trusting and helpful nature, and whether a person is generally well-tempered or not. High agreeableness is often seen as naive or submissive. Low agreeableness personalities are often competitive or challenging people, which can be seen as argumentative or untrustworthy.
Always bear in mind, getting the girl is not about showing her how much you like her, it’s about showing her that you’re worth going after.
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