How Much Can You Handle?

I was talking to one of my friends just a few days ago, and she got me thinking.

She told me about all the problems in her life and how bad she was feeling and that it seemed that the universe just kept piling problem after problem on her and she felt she was going to snap any day.

Yet she has not yet given up, and she is still going strong, coping with it all. In fact, it’s not starting to ease off and get better.

This made me think. I had gone through some difficult periods in my life where I thought the universe was ganging up against me and trying to tear me down. Yet I went through it all. I can still remember one of my worst time, I felt I should just give up, I felt I had tried my best and it is time to take a bow. It was not easy.

Then one night whilst watching the Discovery channel I put two and two together and got forty two.

In this particular show, the archaeologist was recreating how Iron Age man would have made a sword.

The blacksmith, when asked why he was heating and then cooling the blade said something very similar to this, the process is called tempering. It is where you stress the metal in order to make it stronger.

As you can imagine, at that point I realized one thing which is;

The Blacksmith deliberately stresses the blade of a sword so he can make it stronger.

Perhaps that is the same as life? One needs to go through a building process one day at a time.

I then started to review some of the stress points that I have had in my life, and then I realized that it was true. If I had not have had these stresses then I would not be as strong as I am today. I would not be the person I am if it was not for these bad episodes in my life.

I picked my phone and called some of my friends, asking them questions about this and realized it was true for them.

The truth is this; we go through all sorts of trials in our life because we are being prepared/trained for stronger purpose in life.


Today, I can confidently look back with a broad smile on my face, at many of the once negative events in my life and see how they have made me stronger and created the person I am today.

Another thing I realized whilst interviewing these people was that we are never given more than we can handle, even in the scriptures it is stated; that God will not give us temptation more than we can handle. There are certain events that occurred in my friends’ life that I personally would not be able to handle yet my friend handled it. Perhaps she could not have handled some of the things in my life as well.

You will undoubtedly have stresses in your life, but instead of fighting them, embrace them as they are making you stronger. Approach them with a good understanding that you are never given more than you can handle.

Lastly, that insurmountable challenge you are facing is in fact something you can handle and overcome maybe just with a change of perspective. Do not give up.





I’m Julia Jonathan, I write on relationships, communication and lifestyle advice. I believe there’s always room to improve no matter how incredible you think you are. If you think so too, follow me to see more inspirational stories and articles

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