Most of us would like a new car or a bigger house. Or maybe you’d like to climb Mount Everest. Do you know, if you were instantly teleported to the top of Everest, you would not be as happy or fulfilled as if you actually climbed it?
Our goals are more than just things we want to have or achieve. There is so much more to it. You might think that you would like to have a magic genie at your disposal, just like the genie in the kettle, which shows up to rescue you whenever you are in trouble or whenever you need assistance. It would be a lot less enjoyable than don’t you think so?
There’s more than meets the eye when it comes to your goals! Below are some ideas to consider;
Would you find it satisfying, if you could have everything you want just magically appear? If you are like most people, you have a long list of things you would like to see, do, and have.
Imagine you suddenly just snap your fingers and you are wealthy, you can play the piano, you suddenly find yourself in Paris, lose 30 pounds, have a successful business, be married to the person of your dreams, and have three kids.
Imagine that and ask yourself how that would feel? If what you really want is to simply have all those things, you’d jump at that deal. Isn’t it?
However, you probably are not that excited when it is presented this way, do you know why? It’s because the process of achieving something might be more important to you than just having them at the snap of you fingers which is the easier way.
Growing a business, finding your perfect romantic partner, and figuring
out how to become wealthy are part of the journey.
Things will not mean as much if you do not work for them. You certainly will not appreciate.
The way you will appreciate the first car you bought with your money is different from the way you will appreciate a car gift.
Don’t get me wrong, you will appreciate both cars but in a different way.
How do you feel the day after completing a goal? Think about a big goal you have achieved. It might be landing a particular job, graduating from school, or traveling round the world. How did you feel shortly after it was over? Did you not notice how happy and fulfilled you were soon after your great success? You probably felt surprisingly satisfied right? But just like Abraham Harold Maslow hierarchy of needs, you still yarn for more. Which is normal with every human? Now, i want you to honestly answer these question;
Why do you think you were satisfied after completing that goal?
Is it the struggle that matters to you? Maybe the struggle is what appeals to you. Maybe it’s not winning, but putting in the time, sweat, and tears that makes it all worthwhile. Or Maybe it’s the thrill of overcoming a challenge. You certainly will not experience that when you do not have to work for something, Don’t you think so?
Is it the personal growth that makes achieving goals satisfying? Is having a successful business exciting? Or is it learning new skills, developing the perfect sales pitch, and becoming a new and improved version of yourself? To achieve a big goal, you must grow and develop yourself. Is this what really appeals to you? Another point to consider is;
Struggling leads to learning. Do you know, If a new car is just handed to you, you lost an opportunity to learn how to earn, save, and invest your money? When you face challenges, you are forced to learn. Either you study, or you make mistakes and corrections. Both are forms of learning.
Think about all the things you have achieved. Now, imagine all of those things had just been handed to you. How does that make you feel? Would you still be the same person if you lost 50 pounds by waving a magic wand versus changing your diet and working hard at the gym? We get more from achieving goals than just the end result.
Our goals are a way to struggle and grow. Goals provided a sense of accomplishment when they require work and effort to achieve. Self-confidence and self-esteem grow as well when goals are set and accomplished. Having something handed to you is nice but delivers much less meaning.
So, avoid wishing for good luck. Instead, wish to be stronger and more determined. Although achieving it is fantastic, the goal itself is not really the point but the steps you took towards achieving them.
Written by: Juliana Jonathan