Reasons Why She Choose a Bad Guy Over a Nice Guy.

Have you ever asked yourself; why are most women attracted to those motorcycle types, dirty and grungy looking Lotharios that their mothers and fathers have told them to not be involved with? Is it because of their inherently good looks, or the scorching bad boy qualities? Or is it a simple case of bad psychology given that those women really do not know what is good for them?

Is it so good to be bad? In order word; it is so good to be involved with someone bad?  Is it the adventure of them finding themselves in their own little thought-of movie or romantic novel that being together or being involved with a bad guy is just plain tempting?

These are but a few questions racing through my mind.

Why do ladies love guys with questionable character?

I saw a documentary where this lady knew the guy was bad for her but she was still in the relationship with him, according to her, he is like a drug, every difficult to quit. Eventually he murdered her in cold blood.

Often times I believe there is a certain aura that bad boys exude that some women do find hopelessly irresistible. If not, why will I leave a straight up and sometimes, a bit uptight guy for a mean and so manipulative guy?

Basically, it is sort of a fact. Women love the little bad things found in men. Some do so because they love the drama. A relationship with a bad guy gets most women’s juices up and flowing. A date with them is unpredictable. One minute they may be out on a nice cozy dinner, the next minute they may be in a dark street corner making out. Meanwhile, a date with a straight-up man could be nice, simple, conventional and unsurprising. What follow after a quiet dinner may be a talk, and then some more talk, and a walk. To me that’s comfortable, safe and sometimes it might even be romantic. Although for some women such a scenario is boring as hell.

Bad boys are wild, ruthless, spontaneous and adventurous. These are all things emotional. That is why when a lady is driven by emotion alone; she tends to pick bad boys to spend time with. When such occurs, it simply means, they have not yet elevated their vibration to match the emotional intelligence of not so bad guys.  In other words, women of low emotional intelligence pick men of equally low emotional intelligence.

Sometimes, a date or a relationship with all the badness found in men is a great topic for a conversation for women the next day. Women love nitpicking every gory detail about their bad guys. How they have been bad, what they did etc. However, women also enjoy talking about how their man has been good, most especially in bed.

Sometimes, boys that are bad or those who have been bad are referred to as being a wolf, or being a fox. There may be a reason for this term. But what I understand is, both animals are is advisable that a woman should not tread such dark waters, but sometimes they do. Believe it or not, it is the sexual opportunity and excitement that brings women or at least magnetizes them into the waiting arms of a manly predator.

Women will say one thing and mean another. For instance; they’d say they want a nice guy and a gentle man. But deep down they are ashamed to admit their subconscious thoughts. What they say and what they want or need are two different things. So, who should a confused woman choose?

Let us face it. These bad men could also sometimes be charming, if not handsome and also rich. No wonder it is so conveniently easy to simply fall head over heels over them. Plus, there is that dream fantasy of most females that they alone have this amazing and almost god-like quality to be able to change for the better all the bad men in their lives. Wake up honey.

Fortunately or unfortunately, a bad man makes some women feel instantly sexy. This is a stark difference from the guys touted as good, who sometimes discourage some of their women to be as goody-goody as they can possibly be


One amazing thing about bad guys is that they also have options when it comes to women. Surprise! They are confident! That’s what attracts these womenNice is not something that attracts women; it’s a quality they appreciate but it’s not something that creates attraction. Women are also attracted to men who have options. They do not want a guy, who cannot get women, in their subconscious mind, that guy must have something wrong.

Guys, most times you hear a female friend you are having emotional feelings for, telling you about how her boyfriend is such an asshole. You think, “Well if he’s such an asshole, why doesn’t she date someone nice like me?” the reason is; because she’d rather be with a jerk who is confident and exciting than the nice guy who is afraid of his shadow.

Women like confidence and not a guy who keeps chasing and bowing to them because they are pretty. The so called Bad boy is confident, opinionated and can take care of himself like a caveman. He is not going to be her prince charming saving the damsel in distress but is going to make her believe in her inner goddess. He is going to tell her to shut the fuck up and face her fear and not give her some false hope.

 Reasons Why She Choose Bad Guy Over a Nice Guy.

They say for every action, there is always a reaction. Below are few reasons why she would rather date a bad guy than date a nice boy;

  • The manipulative nature of that guy: They are experienced people; they know tricks to make a girl fall for them. They can do best in terms of flirting. They have PhD in cheesy talks.
  • Some ladies are tired of looking and just have fun with whatever falls from the sky. It just so happens to be a bad boy, some calls it fate but I call it a lesson. Bad boys are the ones that call the shots, but also the ones who are not really caring about us and just the outcome of their initiation.
  • Being nice seems to be boring for the girl.
  • They do not fall for bad boys. They just find them more interesting

However, there are certain facts that just cannot be disregarded. There really is, and there should really be no excuse for being bad. Some men are just plain insensitive and no amount of patience, hope, wishing and dreaming could cover up for being bad. A man like this could possibly not be that sincerely in love with the women in their lives.

Believe it or not, they may be more in love with themselves than with anyone else. Try, as much as possible to not fall for the way he profess his love for you. Chances are, (and there is a great chance of this happening) his I-love-you may be his way to get what he wants with you

All in all, dating bad men is good only for that purpose alone dating. Adventure, sexual or otherwise, is good for the short term. Long term relationships require mutual trust and respect, a little kinkiness also would not hurt at all.

Written by: Juliana Jonathan

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I’m Julia Jonathan, I write on relationships, communication and lifestyle advice. I believe there’s always room to improve no matter how incredible you think you are. If you think so too, follow me to see more inspirational stories and articles

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